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The financial cost of our 2nd child

IMG_c4859This one is for you, Marty Finch.

How much does a baby cost?  Our first baby was expensive!  We bought lots and lots of unnecessary things (and then ended up giving most of it away).  What have I spent money on this time?

Pregnancy:  I skipped most of the expensive medical tests and used the free ultrasound provided by Greenville Tech.  I saw our family doctor for my prenatal care.  I splurged on organic herbs, tea, and vitamins. 

Birth:  The birth was very inexpensive.  We skipped the medical route and had our baby in the dining room.  Honestly, the biggest expense was the remodeling work I forced Scott and my dad to complete on the house during my extended nesting period.  There were some supplies to purchase–the most expensive was a birth tub.  Otherwise, they were small things like tinctures, food, waterproof sheet, etc. 

Diapers:  We have not purchased nor has Cedar used a single disposable diaper.  And I see no reason to use any in the future.  We have not even purchased any cloth diapers.  Cedar wears the one-size bumGenius that Norah used.  And we have been loaned and gifted many newborn diapers as well.  A good cloth diaper should last through several babies!  My only expense has been water and energy for washing.  I bought one container of Charlie’s Soap which is still half-full.  I think I paid 11.99.  I use the sun to bleach any stains out.  Our cloth wipes were sewn by my mother-in-law.  I make my own wipe solution using a few drops of lavender EO mixed into water.   

Food:  Cedar is thriving on human milk which is 100% free.  She hasn’t tasted anything else.  And when we get ready to start solid food, I won’t buy anything special.  I’ll just mash up some of our fresh food with a fork. 

Clothes:  When we’re home, she is mostly in a diaper.  I bought 10 white onesies at a consignment sale when I was pregnant and tie-dyed them.  Add to that all of Norah’s newborn clothes and we’re set.  I’m less susceptible to the “oh-my-gosh-too-cute” syndrome that hit me the first time around regarding baby clothes.  It is hard to buy new baby clothes when there are such amazing steals at consignment sales!  They don’t wear them enough to become worn.   

Gear:  I bought a bouncy seat for 10.00 at a consignment sale.  I borrowed a moses basket which she naps in sometimes.  I paid 2.50 for a jersey knit wrap.  I already had a Maya ring sling, Ellaroo MT, Moby, and my Storch wrap.  We already had a carseat and we don’t use a stroller.  She sleeps with us, bathes with us.  I can’t think of anything else we use.

Products we use often that we were given:  Weleda Calendula lotion/bathwash.  I love anything made by Weleda.  Aura Cacia lavendar oil.     

Do I sound proud?  I am!  I love to be frugal.  And frugal is especially fun when it also benefits my baby’s health and the world in which she will live.  Did I leave anything out?   

So Finch, my friend, what are you waiting for??  Having a baby does not have to cost a fortune!

Not confined

mama_smFresh milk is warm, and watery pale. 

Its packaging walks and talks, and runs, and makes love.  It is absent of labeling. 

It has no fixed quantity, or set of loading of nutrients, but ebbs and flows according to the needs of its consumers. 

It is flavored with garlic, or vanilla, or carrots, and sometimes all these things.  It is not confined to fridges and stores, but is everywhere women are. 

                                                                                                                                             –from the book Fresh Milk:  The Secret Life of Breasts by Fiona Giles

 

 

7 weeks

When Norah was 7 weeks old, I returned full time to work. 

Whoa. 

How?? 

My brain did snap a little bit when I returned to work.  Ok, it snapped alot.  If I turn inward and dig a little, I can still feel that sadness.  The awful sadness of leaving her.  And I was blessed to be able to leave her with Scott who was a wonderful stay-at-home daddy.  And I had an incredible co-worker who kept me afloat when I had to cry.  Thanks Laura!  But it was still heart-wrenching.

I cannot imagine going back to work right now.  First, Cedar has not been separated from me for more than an hour.  Second, she is not easy to soothe.  She screams when put down.  She prefers to be worn or nursed and that is about it. 

So I’m incredibly thankful to be able to take her with me to teach Hypnobabies.  And I’m thankful to be able to take a break from doula work for a while. 

Speaking of doula work, I am booking clients for 2010.  Please contact me if you are interested.  I’m limiting my client volume and the calendar is already filling up. 

Random Cedar fact:  She almost always has a cow-lick.  Methinks she has crazy hair!

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