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Archive for the ‘Blech’ Category

Dear Public Health and Pediatric Nurses

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on March 7, 2011

It is ok for a mama to breastfeed her baby during a painful procedure.  The baby will not die from choking on breastmilk. 

Let me repeat:  It is ok for a mama to breastfeed her baby during a painful procedure.

My first pediatric visit with my firstborn ended badly when the nurse refused to let me nurse Norah during an injection.  I was crying.  The doctor had told me I could but the nurses shut the door and said it wasn’t gonna happen.  One nurse said, “You’ll strangle that baby.”  And she tried to take Norah from me.  Rather roughly.  Yeah, that wasn’t gonna happen.  I left in a blaze of postpartum tears. 

Recently, a mama friend stopped in at the local health department to get a vaccination for her baby.  The nurse belittled her and bullied her about her vaccination choices.  Then told her she could not nurse her baby during the shot.  She would “aspirate that baby.”  Now, this mama had nursed her baby through every heel stick and injection.  He has never cried.  This time he did.  And the mama left in a blaze of postpartum tears.

Really, is this request such a big deal?  Do you really, really think that this activity is dangerous?  Has there been a case of a baby dying from breastfeeding aspiration?  I haven’t been able to find one.  And babies choke on breastmilk all the time.  Especially when mama has a forceful let-down. Maybe mamas with forceful let-downs should not be allowed to nurse.   

I found  this American Academy of Pediatrics statement:   Breastfeeding during a painful procedure such as a heel-stick for newborn screening provides analgesia to infants.

And this study in Canada:  There are no reports of adverse events, such as gagging or spitting up. Compared with the frequency of breastfeeding, vaccine injections are uncommon, and it is unlikely that an infant will associate breastfeeding with painful procedures.

And several others.   

What I did not find was anyone with anything to say about aspiration during breastfeeding.  Where is the evidence? 

I couldn’t believe this was such an issue.  The breastfeeding books I read told me to do it…then I couldn’t find anyone who would support it!  When I finally found a nurse willing to administer an injection while I breastfed Norah, I admit I was a little nervous.  Would she choke?  Nope, she didn’t even cry or turn to look at the nurse.  

So c’mon.  Lighten up on this one.  Be a baby-friendly nurse, please.

Posted in Blech, Breastfeeding | 7 Comments »

Changing the Energy

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on February 24, 2011

“PUSH!” 

Except it was spoken in Spanish. 

Which I don’t speak.  And neither did my client.  But the nurse assumed from her dark skin that she did. 

My client was a first time mom.  She had spent most of her labor at home.  Beautifully relaxed.  Quiet.  Intuitive.  She was fully dilated when we arrived and pushing with small ”ahhhhs” and grunts. 

When it was discovered in triage that she was fully dilated, the energy went through the roof.  Nurse yells for a precip tray, un-brakes the bed and begins rolling it down the hall.  Instructions:  “don’t push, honey, just breathe through them.”  Flurry.  Another nurse appears and looks at my client with pity, “Sweetie, did you mean to go natural?”  The dad is frightened by all the activity. 

We arrive in a room.  IV antibiotics are started (GBS +).  Belts strapped on her belly.  Blood pressure cuff.  Thermometer.  Dr. Ken Barbie enters. 

Mom asks if she can push in a squat.  Ken Barbie says “no, we need to get this baby out quickly because I don’t know what’s been happening in there.” 

Stirrups raised.  Legs held back.  ”You’re having a contraction, can you feel that?” 

She shakes her head “no.”  I mean, she’s been a bit distracted by all the madness. 

“Well you are.  And you need to use it.  So take a deep breath, hold it, chin to chest, pull your legs back and PUSH.  1…2…3…4…NO, don’t let your air out!  Again, deep breath…”

And then the nurse switches to Spanish.

Sigh.  Many of  my clients choose to arrive at the hospital late in labor.  And I am struggling to find ways to lower the adrenaline when we get there.   Literally at a recent birth, the nurse was asking the mom (in between pushes) questions like “Do you have electricity in your home?”  “Is this man the father of the baby and will he be going home with you?”  And sometimes, it doesn’t matter how early we arrive, when a woman begins pushing at the hospital, the energy skyrockets.   I especially love the tray of scary instruments that is wheeled into view.   

Yet, out-of-hospital, this stage is often the quietest.  The mom is focused and serious.  The caregivers may murmur a few “beautiful…you’re doing it” or “push with your body” affirmations but are mostly quiet.  And the moms who are encouraged to “push with your body” don’t often “take a breath, hold it, chin to chest, PUSH!  1…2…3….10.”  They give 5 or 6 small grunty pushes or they breathe their baby down.  Sometimes they skip a few pushes to get some rest.  Often, their own adrenaline causes them to rise up, lean forward.  Rarely does a woman intuitively lie back and pull her legs back. 

I’d love to show L&D nurses videos like this one or this one: 

Instead, many of them are trained in this way.  I realize that most of their patients have epidurals and may need help with pushing but PLEASE remember that most unmedicated women do not need to know when or how to push. 

Norah (5 yrs), who has been helping me write this post, would like to tell everyone that “squatting is best.  I know it is best.” 

 I’d love to hear from other doulas how you change the energy during this stage.

Posted in Birth, Blech | Tagged: , | 2 Comments »

AnMed. Good grief.

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 27, 2011

The Leapfrog Group, a nonprofit organization that focuses on hospital standards asked hospitals across the US to voluntarily report their rate of non-medical (elective) inductions and cesarean births before 39 weeks. 

Ok.  First let’s define why elective inductions/cesareans before 38 weeks are bad.  The biggest reason is that the babe isn’t finished cooking yet.  Her lungs and brain are still developing.  More of these babies go to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) and more are at risk for health problems.  An early induction also carries a high risk for cesarean birth which increases danger to mama and baby.  Leapfrog also factors the cost-saving benefit to avoiding early inductions here

These numbers do not reflect early inductions/cesareans for medical reasons.  Medical reasons include preeclampsia or premature rupture of membranes.  These are purely elective (convenience–for the parents or the OB, concerns of big baby, tired of being pregnant, etc). 

Would you like to check out your hospital?   

For the local families:

1)  I’m surprised AnMed was willing to admit their non-medical early induction/cesarean rate is a crazy high 67.3%!

2)  I understand St. Francis has a new policy for 2009 that disallows these early births prior to 39 weeks.  Good for them with their 2% rate!  Maybe they will also catch up on the evidence for other things soon too.  Like what?  Oh, maybe like uninterrupted skin-to-skin contact after birth or vertical positions for birth or…the list goes on. 

3)  Not specific to our hospitals but good to know, in general, the average length of gestation for a first time mom is 41 wks 1 day.  So if a baby is scheduled to be born at 38 weeks, that baby is premature.  Whether he meets the medical criteria for prematurity, he had potentially had several more weeks to grow and develop. 

4)  Finally, beware the back-door induction.  The what?  Nancy New-Mommy goes in for a 38 week visit.  Dr. Sneaky Sneakyscrubs checks her and exclaims, “you’re 2cm dilated and 75% effaced!  are you feeling any contractions?”  Nancy says, “well, I have been feeling some cramping.  I think.”  Dr. Sneakyscrubs:  Let’s go do a non-stress test to see what is happening.  Nancy is surprised that the monitor shows she is having some contractions and they seem to be coming every 7 or so minutes.  Dr. Sneakyscrubs returns to say, “Congratulations, you are in labor!  Let’s get you over to the hospital.  We’ll start you on a very low dose of pitocin to help things along.”  Fast forward:  Nancy’s membranes are artificially ruptured, she gets an epidural to help cope with the pain of the pitocin, antibiotics because her membranes are ruptured, more pitocin because the epidural slowed things down, oxygen because baby distressed from the pitocin, and a cesarean for failure to progress and prolonged rupture of membranes.  Was she ever in labor to begin with?

Ladies, if you’ve ever attended one of my childbirth classes, you know my mantra:  Keep your knickers on.  Keep your knickers on at your 38, 39, 41 week OB visits.  There is nothing your OB or midwife needs to know from your cervix unless you need to know your Bishop’s score for an induction decision.  (There is an app for that by the way).

Posted in Blech, Pregnancy | Tagged: , , | 7 Comments »

Am I Nit-Picking?

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on December 21, 2010

I will get back to birthy posts soon, I promise.

Recently, Norah was participating in a food drive for United Christian Ministries.  Fantastic.  She helped pick out what foods we would donate each week.  We talked about need.  We talked about sharing. 

Then, I realized it was a contest within this group.  The group of kids who brought the most food would win a pizza party. 

A pizza party? 

See, I grew up with stuff like this.  Lots of rewards for good behavior, memorizing scripture, perfect attendance.  I kind of felt that way of thinking was behind us.  That we had a new understanding of social justice.  That the reward was in the doing and the giving.   

Somehow I cannot imagine Jesus, when he sent his disciples out, saying, “whosoever heals the most lepers will get first seating at the marriage supper of the lamb.” 

Actually he said they would be flogged and hated. 

Norah’s group didn’t win the party.  I’m relieved.  Because the people we were collecting cast-off, dusty cans of creamed corn probably don’t get many pizza parties. 

Am I a scrooge about this?  Maybe it is all harmless.  I know I can’t shelter her from shallow rewards and legalism.  But oh how I want her heart to stay tender to the needs around her.  I want to model ways of engaging with people without tidy third parties.

Or pizza parties.

Posted in Blech, Parenting, Social Justice | 3 Comments »

Norah on the Oil Spill

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on July 4, 2010

At breakfast this morning:

Norah (with wide eyes and much emphasis):  Mama, did you know something what was very bad happened.  The ocean BLEW UP.  Yes it did. 

Me:  How do you know?

Norah:  Mimi and I were going to watch sumpin on TV but the news was talking about oil in the ocean.  And THAT is important so we watched it.  And did you know that somebody’s son DIED when the ocean blew up because there was a fire.  And now there is oil going into the water.  It is very sad.

Me:  yes, it is very sad.

Norah:  Hey, I have an idea.  I know how we can close the leak.  When Daddy’s shoulder heals up, he can put on some goggles and swim down into the sea.  And he can take a pipe and put it in the hole.   Ta-Da!

(Photo by Tracie)

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Bait and Switch

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on July 2, 2010

“Yes, we support natural birth.”  Knowing full well that most first-time mamas are induced so it is a moot point entirely.  The average gestation for a first time mama is 41 weeks 1 day.  When do most OBs start suggesting induction?

“Yes, we support VBAC.”  Until you fail to follow the standard protocol and suddenly you’re told (in LABOR!) that you can no longer have a VBAC.

“Yes we welcome birth plans.”  Until you submit yours at 38 weeks and the OB crosses a line through the things she won’t do.  And it is awful tricky to find a new OB willing to take you (the difficult patient) after 38 weeks.

Think I’m exaggerating?  Think I make this stuff up?  No.  The families I work with are handled this way all! the! time!  I have so many stories.   

Let’s take today, for example. 

My student switches to a practice recommended for their wonderful VBAC support.  She cancels her regular prenatal appointment because she believes she is in labor.  She is told to go straight to the hospital with her bags packed. 

Her contractions are just 1o minutes apart.  This may be a practice run.  This may take a couple of days.  She decides to stay home awhile.  And then a receptionist calls to tell her she will no longer be “allowed” to have a VBAC since she didn’t go in when they said. 

How do you disallow someone from having a VBAC?  The baby will come out.  There is no stopping it.  It is a normal, bodily process.  It would be like telling someone they were not allowed to digest their lunch. 

This manipulative and insulting treatment has got to stop.  It must.

Posted in Birth, Blech | Tagged: , , , , | 8 Comments »

[Insert Blog Title]

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on June 2, 2010

[Insert Blog Post Here]

Soon, dear readers.  I have many posts swirling in my head and little time for typing.  But soon.

Posted in Blech | 2 Comments »

Ms. Fix-It

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on March 11, 2010

Norah:  Daddy, why are you throwing away that door?

Scott:  It’s broken.

Norah:  Maybe we should call Joseph.

Scott:  Who?

Norah:  Jesus’ daddy.  He can fix it.  Or maybe Jesus could fix it.  Or the shepherds.  Or you, Daddy.

Scott:  What about Mary?

Norah:  She can’t fix it.  She’s a mommy.

Scott:  Mommies fix things.

Norah:  Mommy fixes dinner.  And she fixes me juice.  That is all she fixes. 

Ouch!  I thought we were doing a good job at non-gendering.  I think proper education needs to happen.  And I need to fix some things.

Posted in Blech, Parenting | 1 Comment »

Pearls

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on February 15, 2010

The Pearls.

Oh I how I long for them to be held accountable.  One day they will be. I was going to blog about how their book, To Train up a Child, and their ministry No Greater Joy has led to yet another murder.  Then I saw Rebecca’s post.  She says it much better.  Go read.

And in case you’re wondering, here is a picture of a supply line:

Posted in Blech, Parenting | Tagged: , | 14 Comments »

Appalled

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 11, 2010

The Ohio Department of Health has released terrible statistics about cesarean rates in their state. 

In 2008, 27.1% of low-risk, first time mothers gave birth by cesarean section. 

Almost a third of healthy women cannot give birth vaginally in Ohio hospitals?  They receive major abdominal surgery (which has an increased risk of maternal death among many other infant and maternal complications).

I’m certain Ohio is not alone.  Good for them for revealing these numbers!

Posted in Birth, Blech | Leave a Comment »

 
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