I have no idea what is going on in Norah’s head.
She will be 5 in a few months.
She has humongous break-downs when things change. And I’m not talking about big things. I’m talking about when her poop is flushed down the toilet. Or when a bite is taken out of the cookie. Or when Cedar’s hair is combed.
She melts down. Wailing. Gnashing of teeth.
Tonight. After carefully counting that there were 17 cubes of cantaloupe on the table, she ate one. Then immediately began crying and saying, “No! No! I didn’t want to do that!! Waaaaah! Make it come back!!”
And a few weeks ago, I magnanimously bought her a 2.50 cookie. It was a fancy moose. She took one bite and then started screaming because she wanted the antler to come back. The cookie sits untouched.
What is this? What is this?? Anybody?
I have a bazillion pictures on my phone of bizarre things she insists on cataloguing. Yes, I even have a picture of her poop. Here is one she asked me to take of her spaghetti twirled on a fork which she refused to eat because it was so pretty. She wanted me to keep it forever. I agreed to keep it until the end of the day.
And she hides food rather than eating it so she can “keep it forever.” We’ve found cereal in her bed, almonds in her play kitchen fridge, a pancake in the car, a slice of pizza hidden in the fridge.
Noelle, who works as a counselor to children, came up with the best tool. She taught Norah to use a mental camera so she can remember things forever. Sometimes, it prevents a meltdown.
Ah, this 4 yr old stage has been full of challenges. I don’t know whether to weather this one because “this too shall pass” or more actively engage in it before it becomes some bizarre eating disorder. I’m leaning toward the weathering.
It is coinciding with many statements like “I’m the boss of my swingset/room/toy/fill-in-the-blank and I can do whatever I want with it” and “one day I’ll be a mommy and I won’t have to listen to you.” So I imagine it is about control. Seems logical.
Anyone else experienced something like this? And aren’t you relieved I didn’t post the poop pic?