Norah goes to a classical program once a week.
This week, her teacher stepped out of the room and I was the only adult in the class. The kids wandered closer and closer to the door to peek outside. Finally, I told them to come back into the room.
“You’re not the boss of me.”
It was spoken matter-of-factly by one of the boys. As a statement. Not rudely or smugly.
My first reaction was, “Thank goodness Norah isn’t the only one who says that!”
My second reaction was, “Oh yes I am. I’m the grown-up.”
My third reaction was, “Well, technically, he is right.”
The teacher didn’t put me in charge. I’m not his mama. And as I thought more about the incident, I realized just how important his point was.
Norah’s school is in the middle of a renovation. There are construction workers everywhere. Let’s play, “what if?”
Now, of course, the kids are not left unsupervised but what if.
What if a construction worker walked into the gym while the kids were playing and said, “I need one of you to come with me. You there, little girl.”
Have I taught my little girl that she does not obey all grown-ups simply because they are grown-ups?
I certainly don’t want her to be an 18 yr old one day forced to a strip search by her employer.
My favorite book about teaching children to be safe is Gavin de Becker’s Protecting the Gift. He describes 12 tests to keep kids safe. Here is number three.
3) Kids know it is ok to REBUFF AND DEFY adults
Have I taught her this important lesson?
Good for the mama of this little boy who taught her son to assert himself!