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Locals: busy Saturday!

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We have two exciting events this Saturday and I know I’ll see many of you there.

First, the Great Cloth Diaper Change.  The cloth diaper community is trying for a Guinness World Record: the most diapers changes simultaneously.  And, of course, the event will raise awareness about sustainability for Earth Day.

Natural Baby is a host location for Greenville.  Please take a bit of time out of your Saturday to join us–your friendly neighborhood changing station!  Even if you don’t cloth diaper, you can join in.  Just check the appropriate box on the registration and a cloth diaper will be provided. 

Go here to register and print your eticket.  The event begins at noon but arrive 30 minutes early please. 

After you’ve changed your baby’s diaper, go for a walk and have some lunch.  Then come back at 2pm for our April Blessingway.  April is Cesarean Awareness Month.  We’ll hear Erin’s Greer Hospital VBAC story and Angie’s planned cesarean story.  Our local ICAN leader, Jenn Anderson, will talk about steps to achieve a VBAC in the upstate.  Of course, little ones are always welcome! 

See you there!

After the cesarean

I hear:
  • Everybody tells me I should just be thankful I have a healthy baby. 
  • I wish I hadn’t taken a single class or read any books.  I wish I hadn’t known so much.  Then I wouldn’t care. 
  • Could I have made different choices? 
  • Would this have happened with a different provider?  Different place? 
  • Is there something wrong with my body?
  • What if [fill in the blank]?
A couple of times a month, I get emails from women who have had cesareans –usually for their first baby.  Some have just given birth.  Some gave birth years ago and contemplate pregnancy.  Some are soon to birth again.  They tell me their stories.  And they ask their questions.  I do not have answers.  I am not qualified.  But I’m the one hearing the questions and the grief from these mamas who are healing from their cesarean births.       
The mindful women, the ones who educate themselves about birth, the ones who make good choices during their pregnancy–these women, after having a cesarean birth, often mourn. 
And there is little space in our culture for mourning such an experience.  Because, after all, you had a good outcome; a healthy baby.  Why should you feel sad or disappointed?  It is challenging to find the language to express these feelings.  Many women lose faith in their body.  Some lose faith in the medical system.  Some get angry.  Some give up. 
Perhaps the first thing to do is to begin processing these feelings.  Surround yourself with stories of vaginal births after cesarean (VBAC).   Watch VBAC clips on youtube.  Create space to mourn and to heal through writing, art, or ritual.      
And then, when your spirit is renewed, find the research and information to plan your next birth. 
ICAN is a good place to begin.  Find your local chapter and reach out to these supportive women.  The Greenville group is full of resources and incredible stories.
I’d love to hear from you on this one.  Thoughts?