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Archive for January, 2010

Spilled Milk

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 14, 2010

Today I made catnip popsicles.  I infused catnip from my herb garden for 20 minutes.  Poured into popsicle molds with a tiny drop of orange juice and agave nectar.  Norah won’t take straight catnip so I have to hide the taste. 

I might make a few (without any oj or nectar) for Cedar to suck on.  Catnip is reputed to help with teething.  And teething is the preoccupation these days.  And nights.

I thought this might be a nice treat before bed.  Norah gets so wound up in the evenings when daddy comes home.  Her body flails like a fish knocking over any object that isn’t nailed down.  Catnip = mellow.   

And speaking of knocking things down–

Norah is clumsy with her body these days.  Full of cooped-up-winter energy.  I won’t name everything she has dropped or spilled this morning.  Just before I wrote this, she spilled a cup of milk.  My first instinct was righteous indignation.  You know, the exasperated mom voice.  The drawn out “norahhhhh” with a trace of adult whine. 

Then I remembered my own spills when I was a kid.  Whenever I broke something (and later, when I got a speeding ticket or two), my parents reacted with patience and kindness.  My memory of it is something of kinship.  My mom saying something like “we all drop things sometimes” or “I got a speeding ticket once and…”  It checked me today.  As it has other days. 

Thanks mom and dad for providing a pattern of grace and gentleness for this flailing-like-a-fish mama to follow. 

Aren’t these the coolest popsicle molds?  Norah’s great grandparents gave her these for Christmas.  Adorable no-spill (very important) ring pops.

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Life in the Hermit House

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 12, 2010

Just a little update:

Cedar:  She is 5 months now.  She continues to cry if anyone other than Scott holds her.  I’m told she settles eventually if I’m not around but that doesn’t make it easy for me, the caregiver, or Cedar.  I wonder what it is about her temperament that causes this reaction.  She is a smiley little thing with a snakey long tongue but sometimes if family/friends look at her, she will fall apart into tears.  She doesn’t do this with strangers.  So odd.  Cedar is an easy baby if we stay home.  So we stay home.  Alot.  I was gone for 17 hours for a birth (hoorah wonderful VBAC homebirth!) and thanks to Carey, mom, and Scott, Cedar was well-cared for while I was away.  No permanent damage!     

Norah:  She is 4.  And lately, the whining and tantruming have re-surfaced.  I thought we left those way behind.  There are also many dramatic “I hates” and “I will nevers” and stomping of feet.  I feel some urgency to intervene before she is ruined forever.  But I know the urgency is only in my head.  She is fine and finding her independence which I’m sure is scary.  And finding her place in the family now that she is not an only child.  Today, I experimented with feeding her protein snacks much more frequently and the whining has dramatically decreased.  

Me:  I long for a few hours without Cedar.  I leave her with Scott when I teach classes or go to prenatals but I would like to go out for coffee with my husband.  We went to a concert in Asheville Sunday night at The Grey Eagle and yes, I wore my baby.  Thankfully she slept through most of it but I covered her ears because the band was loud.  I admit I felt a little out of place. 

Scott:  keeps on turning out the gorgeous wood.  Check out this cedar baby spoon. 

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Appalled

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 11, 2010

The Ohio Department of Health has released terrible statistics about cesarean rates in their state. 

In 2008, 27.1% of low-risk, first time mothers gave birth by cesarean section. 

Almost a third of healthy women cannot give birth vaginally in Ohio hospitals?  They receive major abdominal surgery (which has an increased risk of maternal death among many other infant and maternal complications).

I’m certain Ohio is not alone.  Good for them for revealing these numbers!

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Brow-wiper

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 11, 2010

It is a hard thing for a doula to admit:

The best births are the ones at which I’m not needed.  Superfluous.  Merely a concierge service.  Standing around twiddling my thumbs or sitting in the corner knitting. 

Because at those births, the birthing couple can say entirely, “We did it all ourselves.” 

I was on my way to a birth recently when the dad called and said they had decided to go on to the hospital.  I arrived at the hospital just before they did.  Maybe 7 contractions from the elevator to the bed, the baby was born.  The doctor barely got a glove on. 

What did I do at this birth?  Hmmmm.  I wiped a brow.  Spoke some words.  Took a couple of pictures.  Made some red raspberry leaf tea for afterbirth pains.  The mom and dad were the only heroes in this birth story–as they should be! 

In this instance, I was just an expensive brow-wiper. 

The trouble with birth is that you can’t predict the path it will take.  And you often can’t predict the caregivers who will attend you.  Will they have patience?  Will they know labor tricks to resolve a complication without resorting to abdominal surgery.  Because I attend births both in-hospital and out-of-hospital, I’ve seen c-sections for things that were resolved with time and technique in other settings.

A doula is an insurance plan.  You hope you won’t need her but you’re glad she’s there!

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Expectations

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 9, 2010

See those two snazzy kids in the background?  That is my brother-in-law, Zach, and my sister, Noelle.

Doesn’t Cedar fit nicely between them?  I think so.  Next Christmas, they will have a babe that size!

In fact, their wee one shares the same due date as Cedar.  What are the chances?  I think they are so frugal they matched the dates to get all the right hand-me-downs. 

Norah has already begun advising the happy parents-to-be on how to give birth.  Complete with demonstrations.  “It’s easy.  You just squat in the water and Uncle Zach helps the baby swim to the top.” 

I think I’m more excited about my one and only sister giving birth than I was about doing it myself!  Noelle attended both of my births.  I’m thrilled to be able to watch her begin her own journey to motherhood. 

Stay tuned.  More to come on the Noelle/Zach pregnancy!  Well, unless they tell me not to blog about them…

ETA:  One of the first things Noelle has learned is that US employers are not required to provide paid maternity leave.  Employees are required to use sick/vacation days or go on short-term disability.  The US is one of four countries that doesn’t provide paid leave to new mamas.  The others are Swaziland, Lesotho, and Papua New Guinea.  Want to do something about that?  Check out momsrising.

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Attention locals!

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 7, 2010

I’m enrolling for a 6-week comprehensive childbirth course to begin in mid-February.  I need students, please. 

Classes will meet once a week in the evening.  Students will receive a huge childbirth book, a tote-bag, 8 relaxation and hypnosis CDs, a birth partner booklet with “cheat sheets” and lots more.  This is a Hypnobabies class series which will teach you how to prepare for an easy, comfortable birthing.  Even if you’re not sure about the hypnosis part (which I was completely skeptical about at first, too), you’ll benefit so much from the nutrition, exercise, positioning, and consumer information.  I’m very proud to teach this fantastic series.    

I cannot say it enough:  Cedar’s birth was so incredibly relaxed (and short) thanks to these tools. 

Please email me at j_byers[at]bellsouth[dot]net to reserve your spot.  I can only take five couples!

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A great start to the new year

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 7, 2010

A VBAC homebirth. 

Starring a strong mama and a proud papa. 

The debut of a new soul.

Standing ovation.

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Hypno-Tip: Turning a Breech Baby with Hypnosis

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 5, 2010

A breech presentation is a tricky situation.  Especially in upstate SC.  To my knowledge, the closest care provider willing to vaginally deliver a breech baby is in Asheville or Bamburg.  There may be a few “underground” midwives as well.  But should you choose to have a hospital birth, you won’t find local options other than cesarean.  It is a shame.  In Sweden, 52% of breech babies are delivered vaginally with no statistical difference in outcome. 

I’ve often wondered what I would do if I found myself with a breech presentation.  First line of defense:  do everything possible to get the baby to turn! 

Only about 5% of all babies are breech at term. There are many suggestions for turning a breech baby physically, such as swimming, using a slant board, massage, moxibustion, pelvic tilt, etc.  

Another excellent resource is the Spinning Babies website which has information on turning babies in several challenging positions.

In addition to these techniques, we have another amazing tool that helps breech babies turn to the head-down position – our own powerful minds! Since the baby in utero is part of the mother, it is registered as so by the subconscious mind, which can be directed to make changes in the mother’s body. Release of fears that can constrict muscles is also used in hypnosis sessions, to help the mother relax and allow her baby to turn. The body is controlled completely by the mind, which is how our Hypnobabies moms can use hypnosis to stop-preterm labor, eliminate nausea and insomnia and of course, create a much easier and more comfortable childbirth experience. Using hypnosis to turn breech babies has been more successful than using other techniques alone. In a study done at a prominent university, 81% of the babies turned to vertex position with the use of hypnosis.  See study abstract at the bottom of this post.

At Hypnobabies, we suggest all women consider how powerful their mind is and use it during pregnancy, birthing, and postpartum to enhance their comfort, health and safety, as well as that of their precious baby.  Your mind can direct your body in such a positive way–use it!  If your baby is breech, you can find a well-trained hypnotherapist in your area or visit Hypnobabies for information on our Turn Your Breech Baby CD and Mp3 tracks.

Turn, baby, turn!

Design:  Prospective case series compared with historical, matched comparison group.
Subjects: One hundred pregnant women whose fetuses were in breech position at 37 to 40 weeks’ gestation and a matched comparison group of women with similar obstetrical and sociodemographic parameters derived from databases for other studies from the same time period and geographical areas.
Intervention: The intervention group received hypnosis with suggestions for general relaxation with release of fear and anxiety. While in the hypnotic state women were asked for the reasons why their baby was in the breech presentation. As much hypnosis was provided as was convenient and possible for the women until they were delivered of the baby or the baby converted to the vertex position.
Main Outcome Variables: A successful conversion for the intervention group was scored when the baby spontaneously converted to the vertex position before delivery or successful cephalic version. The conversion rate of the intervention group was compared with the comparison group who received standard obstetrical care without the opportunity for hypnosis.
Results: Eighty-one percent of the fetuses in the intervention group converted to vertex presentation compared with 48% of those in the comparison group. This difference was statistically significant.
Conclusions: Motivated subjects can be influenced by a skilled Hypnotherapist in such a manner that their fetuses have a higher incidence of conversion from breech to vertex presentation. Psychophysiological factors may influence the breech presentation and may explain this increased frequency of conversion to vertex presentation.
From Archives of Family Medicine, Vol. 3, Oct. 1994 Hypnosis and Conversion of the Breech to the Vertex Presentation Lewis E. Mehl, MD, PhD Dept. of Psychiatry Univ. of Vermont College of Medicine, Burlington

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Turning Wood

Posted by Inexplicable Ways on January 4, 2010

My husband got a lathe for Christmas and he has been a busy woodsy man.

The honey dipper with the reddish handle is from fallen cedar we found in my parent’s forest.  The dark wood salt cellar is from Scott’s grandfather–some black walnut from his forest.  The other honey dippers are from pine and redwood.  He also made a stunning wooden scoop from cedar.  Everything is finished with local beeswax.  Not sure yet what I’m doing with the tiny pine scoop pictured.  I’m keeping catnip in the salt cellar. 

Why do I need catnip, you ask.  Catnip is an excellent and safe herb for babies.  It soothes digestions, helps with achy gums, and (bonus!) acts as instant lullaby.  I keep it growing in abundance. 

Another woodsy feature to our holidays:  Norah wanted to give a gift to Cedar.  So Scott cut some baby blocks with nice grips for baby hands and Norah spent hours sanding them.  Then they coated them with beeswax.  Such a sweet gift. 

I love my crafty woodsman.  Even when his shoes fill with sawdust and spill out onto the bedroom floor.  Even when he stays in his workshop until 3am.

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