Regarding birth, I hear language like this: “You mean, your doctor let you [fill in the blank]?”
I’ll be honest. Language like this makes me want to puke.
I attend births in different environments. Rarely do I hear an out-of-hospital birther say, “I am so glad my midwife let me [fill in the blank].” But I hear it all the time about doctors or nurses.
What is the difference?
Pregnant women, hear me. You do not need to compromise all your power and choices when choosing a hospital birth. Yes, there are some limitations. Yes, many many OBs do not support vertical birth, delayed cord clamping, etc. Find one who does. Prepare. Ask your friendly neighborhood doula which doctors support physiological birth. We know what goes on in the labor room.
One of my clients recently gave birth standing in the hospital bathroom. Her doctor (of course it was Dr. Polo Shirt) responded afterwards, “well, I haven’t had a standing birth in awhile.” He was completely unfazed by the whole thing. He simply handed her the baby and helped her to the bed. Some of her friends responded with “he let you give birth standing up??” Why yes. And she trusted he would support whatever position she chose.
Do not be afraid to switch care providers if your intuition is screaming that he/she will not support your choices. Be tenacious about finding someone who will. Birth is important. It is. How you are made to feel during birth is important.
**Great scene, isn’t it? All I could do was crawl between doctor and toilet to slide a pad under her and then crawl back out to grab the camera. Space was tight and it all went down quickly. I think Dr. Polo Shirt only got one glove on.