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Ms. Fix-It

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Norah:  Daddy, why are you throwing away that door?

Scott:  It’s broken.

Norah:  Maybe we should call Joseph.

Scott:  Who?

Norah:  Jesus’ daddy.  He can fix it.  Or maybe Jesus could fix it.  Or the shepherds.  Or you, Daddy.

Scott:  What about Mary?

Norah:  She can’t fix it.  She’s a mommy.

Scott:  Mommies fix things.

Norah:  Mommy fixes dinner.  And she fixes me juice.  That is all she fixes. 

Ouch!  I thought we were doing a good job at non-gendering.  I think proper education needs to happen.  And I need to fix some things.

Pearls

The Pearls.

Oh I how I long for them to be held accountable.  One day they will be. I was going to blog about how their book, To Train up a Child, and their ministry No Greater Joy has led to yet another murder.  Then I saw Rebecca’s post.  She says it much better.  Go read.

And in case you’re wondering, here is a picture of a supply line:

Appalled

The Ohio Department of Health has released terrible statistics about cesarean rates in their state. 

In 2008, 27.1% of low-risk, first time mothers gave birth by cesarean section. 

Almost a third of healthy women cannot give birth vaginally in Ohio hospitals?  They receive major abdominal surgery (which has an increased risk of maternal death among many other infant and maternal complications).

I’m certain Ohio is not alone.  Good for them for revealing these numbers!

A Vent, Purely a Vent

This story begins with a dead ipod.  I had a wonderful Rob Bell sermon podcast I planned to listen to on my drive last night to a prenatal appointment.  Instead, I found my ipod was dead.  No battery power remaining.  Shoot.   

A nice phone conversation with my sister got me to the prenatal, but coming home I had to resort to the radio.  I flipped through channels to catch the end of Focus on the Family with Dr. James Dobson.  He was railing about retailers who do not display Christmas decorations or wish customers a “Merry Christmas.”  Well folks, when Jim Dobson is riled up about something, he must do something .  Usually the result is a ban or a petition.  So Focus on the Family has created “Stand for Christmas” a website on which shoppers can report naughty stores and sign a petition.  Naughty stores wish customers a “Happy Holiday” or put up other holiday signs to honor Kwanzaa or Hanukkah or [gasp] do nothing at all!

Did you know Walmart is “Christmas-Friendly?”  That the giant mega-monster gets Dr. Dobson’s stamp of approval?  Oh indeed.

What a bunch of drivel. 

Here I am worried that my Christmas gifts are ethically produced; that they are not made by enslaved children or exploited adults and “America’s most influential evangelical leader” is guiding his followers to instead count the number of “Merry Christmas” signs as they fill their carts with slave-made chocolate.

I know he isn’t a scoundrel.  He really isn’t.  He is a good guy.  But there are some very real issues surrounding American consumerism. 

I just wish he would have gotten serious about something a little more in tune with the reason to celebrate the birth of Christ.  Maybe promote something like Advent Conspiracy.

Home Repair=$1.50

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This post is embarrassing. 

We’ve had a mysterious sound in our home.  The source seemed to be behind the shower wall.  It sounded like cicadas.  But it never stopped–so, we ruled out animal/insect/amphibian since they surely would need to take a break.  The sound had been going on for days.  It was so noticeable that Norah stopped going to the potty by herself out of fear of the strange noise.

Scott thought it was a water leak.  But when he turned off the water, the sound continued.  He crawled under the house and found nothing amiss.  I was about to call a plumber (Hi Laura C!).  Scott is in Pensacola on a business trip and was worried that the sound had not been resolved.  We imagined dire consequences and house catastrophe.  Not to mention…expensive repairs. 

Last night, friends, I sat in the bathroom and puzzled over it.  Using my pregnancy spidey-senses, I listened. 

First, I thought the sound came from my bottle of baking soda water in the corner of the shower.  Picking it up and putting it to my ear–I giggled and thought, “silly girl.”  But I persisted.  Picked up the ACV bottle and listened.  Nope.  Picked up the shaving gel (which I had used that morning!) and whoa!  The sound!  My shaving gel bottle sounded like a troupe of cicadas!  I have since tossed the offending bottle after visions of explosion in the shower. 

What if I had called the plumber?

Cesarean Practices

I’m going to try to write this post without sounding like I’m on a rant.  Deep breath and…

I want to talk about the immediate postpartum of a cesarean birth.  First, let me mention, that I’ve only attended cesareans at Greenville Memorial.  My experience is limited and what I’ve heard of other local hospitals is just that–hearsay. 

What bothers me the most about preparing my clients for cesarean birth is the inconsistency of practices.  I honestly don’t know what to tell them to expect anymore.  Examples: 

1)  Sometimes I’m permitted in the operating room.  If the doctor says I can attend, then the anesthesiologist must ok it.  I receive that answer second-hand from a nurse.  Sometimes after I’m already dressed in scrubs, I’m told “the anesthesiologist said ‘no’.”

2)  In that case, I’m taken to the mom’s recovery room to await her arrival.  Since Greenville Memorial doesn’t permit recovery room “rooming-in,” I stay with mom while dad goes with baby.  Recently, however, I was not allowed in recovery at all.  Like the anesthesiologist decision, it was at the say-so of one person–the recovery room nurse.  In that situation, the mom was left alone in recovery while dad stayed with baby.  I learned that if I was her immediate family, the nurse would let me in.  I’ve never heard that one before.  I wonder if it is written down anywhere?  

3)  If baby is healthy, he is taken to the nursery where inane people smile at the babies lying alone in isolettes behind the glass.  I have so much trouble with this scene.  The babies are alone.  These newborns are not skin-to-skin with a parent, are lying on their back under bright lights, and are surrounded by unfamiliar open space and smells. Why are people smiling at this?  But I digress.  The inconsistency is how quickly and easily the dad is able to bust his newborn out of the nursery.  Sometimes, it is no big deal.  Dad walks over to the nursery door and requests his baby.  Sometimes, he is told that the baby must be observed for an hour.  Sometimes 2 hours.  Sometimes he is told the baby must have a bath first.  I’ve actually started suggesting my clients flirt or fib to get their baby.  I watched one dad do both!  Tip:  go to the Mom/Baby info desk, ask for the room number of your wife, then go tell the nursery that you have been assigned a room and need to take your baby to his room. 

What logic suggests it is best practice to keep baby alone in an isolette immediately after birth?  When every medical journal is promoting immediate skin-to-skin and early initiation of breastfeeding, why this practice?  Babies do best in arms.  Why do newborn nurseries still exist?  Now I’m sure Greenville Memorial has a logistical reason for this practice but I doubt it is based on logic.

What my issue boils down to is this:  how your baby is handled after a cesarean birth is often determined by one person’s whim or mood. 

Another example:  one of my clients wanted the baby to be placed skin-to-skin on her chest following her cesarean.  She and her doctor discussed how that would work.  Everyone agreed.  Doctor exited.  OR nurse entered.  She said “absolutely not.  the OR is too cold for skin-to-skin.”  And so ensued a tense discussion that ended with a sour OR nurse influencing much of what subsequently occurred in the OR and in recovery. 

In some hospitals (even St. Francis), families remain in recovery together.  In some hospitals, babies are routinely placed skin-to-skin on mom immediately and in a few hospitals, permitted to nurse in the operating room.  I’ve heard of one Australian doctor who encourages the mother to “birth” her own baby during cesareans.  He delivers the head and then guides the mom to pull the baby to her chest, cord still uncut.  I’m not sure how the whole sterile field issue is handled in that situation.  The point is that there are ways to make a cesarean birth feel more like, well, birth.

Step 4 of the Mother-Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative is to initiate breastfeeding within one hour of birth.  And while I’ve had one client who nursed her baby immediately after leaving the OR (before baby was removed to the nursery), this is not the norm.  On average, for the cesareans I’ve attended, the delay has been more like 2-4 hours.     

And in case you’re wondering why breastfeeding within the first hour of birth is so important, here are a few reasons:

1)  Mom’s body regulates the baby’s body temperature. 

2)  Baby is less stressed, calmer, and has steadier breathing and heart rates.

3)  Baby is exposed to bacteria from the mother which are mostly harmless, or against which the mother’s milk contains protective factors.  Mom’s bacteria colonizes the baby’s gut and skin.  These compete with more harmful bacteria from health providers and the environment, and so prevent them from causing infection.

4)  Baby receives colostrum which, among many other protective factors, stimulates the baby to have bowel movements so that meconium is cleared quick.  This helps get rid of the substances in the baby’s body that produce jaundice and may help reduce it.

5)  Touching, mouthing, and sucking at the breast stimulates oxytocin to release in the mom.  Oxytocin causes the uterus to contract which may reduce maternal bleeding.  It stimulates other hormones which cause a mom to feel calm, relaxed, and “in love” with her baby.  And finally, it stimulates the flow of milk from the breast.

6)  Mom experiences joy.  The process of bonding is strengthened.

If you had a cesarean birth or attend cesareans, what has been your experience?  What are the practices like at other hospitals? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Not that I Ever Use Motrin

itemWhen I first heard that Motrin was bashing babywearing, I thought the momsphere was overreacting.  And since I apparently don’t have some component installed on my computer that would let me view the commercial online, I put it out of mind.

Then.  Then, I read the transcript for motrin’s “I mean, in theory, it’s a great idea” commercial.  Are you serious?  Insensitive on so many levels.  Don’t companies realize that it is never a good idea to question parenting choices?  Nothing makes women angrier than someone (especially a corporation) questioning their choices.  Motrin actually has a computer animated mom saying that even though babywearing hurts, it makes her “look like an official mom.”  Good grief.   

For the record, lugging the heavy carseat carrier = backache. 

Using a simple piece of woven cloth to support my baby in my arms = sanity.

By the way, women have known this little “theory” for hundreds of years.  Long before motrin…

Psst…want to see more pictures of mamas and papas sporting comfortable carriers?  Check out our local babywearing group’s gallery.

ETA:  Thanks to a massive backlash, motrin has removed the ad.  It will still run in ads that have already been printed.  If you want to see the fuss and missed the motrin.com link, find it here on youtube.

I’m not afraid of the dark.

I love halloween.  And I’m a Christian.

Just 20 years ago, I remember attending our small conservative church’s annual halloween haunted house.  It was awesome!  And, yes, there were chainsaw chases, opening coffins, and wiggling hands coming out of the floor vents.  My, my how culture changes. 

Now I’m not proposing churches start trying to out-do all the haunted houses in town.  I’m not even proposing they celebrate halloween.  Honestly, what bugs me is “trunk-or-treat.”

Trunk-or-Treat.

Does anyone else picture an ominous man slamming a kid in a trunk?  If “trunk-or-treat” is supposed to parallel “trick-or-treat,” then the trunk sounds like a scary thing–a trick.  I don’t think the phrase was well thought-out…but maybe that is the english degree talking. 

Really, though, churches are saying, “We’re not celebrating halloween.  Nope.  Kids are simply dressed up in costumes and walking around getting candy”  Ah, alrighty.  And the kids are probably thinking, “even though we’re doing the same thing our halloween-celebrating friends are doing, we’re ok because we’re doing it at church and calling it something (slightly) different.   

I do understand the point of these spin-off celebrations.  I really do.  Halloween makes churches uneasy.  Kids want to do something on halloween.  Parents want to offer an alternative.  But, wow…make it a true alternative.  Distinguish it.  Be creative.  “Harvest festival” or “Reformation Party” would even sound slightly better and be less confusing. 

Some things are simply not clear cut.  Some subjects deeply divide Christians.  Delightfully, I have freedom in Christ.  I can carve pumpkins, trick-or-treat, dress up, and watch It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown without being afraid of the dark.  It is a genetic fallacy to assume I’m celebrating pre-Christian rites by participating in these activities.  These things have lost their pagan meanings much like mistle-toe, Easter eggs, and church steeples.  If your family does not celebrate halloween, I figure you have good reasons for it and respect that wholeheartedly!  Still, if I see you at a “trunk-or-treat,” I might tickle you until you’re forced to admit you’re really trick-or-treating…      

Salt dough ornaments Norah and I made this weekend. 

Warning

Read only if you want to get red in the face and throw something. 

http://  medpolitics.com/content/How-I-and-my-OB-colleagues-Swindle-Patients-Thinking-That-Their-Decisions-Make-Any-Sense

I broke the link; you’ll have to remove the spaces.