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I’ve always fancied the word “doppelganger”

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My husband seems to have several look-a-likes. 

For the longest time, we picked on him because he looks like David Phelps.  Scott HATES southern gospel music.  Passionate dislike.  He cut his curls off once, I’m certain, because I posted a Phelps picture on facebook and tagged him.  Some of our friends really thought it was Scott.   

Now, he has a more appropriate twin.  Check this comparison: 

 

This one is Sam Beam.  We’re lately loving Iron and Wine so I felt safe to post this one.  Hopefully, he won’t cut his hair in response.  On the other hand, hopefully he won’t grow a beard that long either!  On an interesting note, they were, in fact, born the same year in the same state.  Spooky, huh?  Yeah, not really.  But they could have been classmates.     

What does a postpartum doula do?

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Anything my client asks me to do.

Yesterday, at a lovely postpartum visit, I blew up balloons. Lots of balloons for the big sister’s birthday party. My lungs got a work-out!

At one postpartum visit the mom wanted me to hold her baby so she could shower. She put me in a chair in front of the TV, handed me a precious little bitty one, and even offered me sweet tea!

The most difficult task I’ve been asked to do? Iron a former military man’s white dress shirts. I don’t even own an ironing board and I have no idea what to do with starch. I could only tell the client that I ironed with love.

I’ve dusted furniture, walked dogs, played with toddlers, worn babies, processed birth stories, checked latches, shared a pot of coffee, washed diapers, and even given a homeschool lesson. Whatever a family needs. I love entering into the family rituals for this short precious time like no other.

Shot, smuggling zucchini into mailboxes

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In honor of picked-this-morning tomatoes and zucchini from my garden, I treated myself to my favorite lunch. 

This blending of flavors developed out of a mad throw-together of foods one day when Noelle was coming over for lunch.  The collards and cabbage are boiled for 4 minutes then rinsed with cold water and chopped.  I use the leftover water to cook the grains (I cheat–it is a 7-grain blend from Kashi).  I stir fry the greens in sesame oil and season with rice vinegar, sesame seeds, and pepper.  The zucchini is stir fried in water.  By happenstance, we discovered that fresh pineapple makes the perfect pairing for the greens.  Ah, the goodness from suave reptilian glitter.

A Little Gem I Found

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While scrounging around my parent’s house, I found the 1966 edition of De Lee’s Obstetrics for Nurses.  Interesting reading and frightening pictures.  Here are a few tidbits:

  • The introduction praises the fact that “99% of whites and 85% nonwhites now give birth in hospitals” while the next paragraph expresses fear at the scarcity of OBs and the “coming avalanche of babies.”
  • There is pointedly no mention of midwives and those mostly “nonwhites” who give birth outside of hospitals do so “unattended.”
  • Aside from the rising birth rate, the other great problem is infant mortality.  It is a “stinging realization that 15 countries have lower infant mortality than the United States.”  (ahem, we have slipped still lower on the list) 
  • “Most mothers complete their families by age 30.”
  • “It is the nurse who is the constant attendant of the woman in labor.”
  • I found it interesting that gentian violet was the only treatment mentioned for yeast infection during pregnancy.  How could the poor pharmaceutical company make any money if that was still prescribed? 
  • The ideal weight gain is 15-20 lbs and each pregnant mom must closely monitor her water and salt intake. 

I’m sure I’ll add more morsels of De Lee as I skim along.  The best part is reading my mom’s notes in the margins. 

 

Reviving a Forgotten Favorite

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Someone recently reminded me about an old trick I used to use.  Add some sugar to the shower routine!  More sugar that is.  Maybe I should just move my spice cabinet to the shower!  I now have apple cider vinegar, baking soda, brown sugar, oregano, and white sugar in the tub.  What next? 

I digress.  It goes like this:  I put the white sugar in an old spice jar that has a sift top.  I pour some Dr. B in my hand (peppermint is my current flavor-of-the-day) and shake on some sugar.  It makes a great exfoliate for my skin.  And unlike salt, which I’ve also tried, it dissolves quickly and doesn’t feel as abrasive.  It is soft enough for my face.  And maybe, just maybe, it will make me sweeter.     

Negative Heel Technology

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I am not posting this picture because I want anyone to be jealous.  No, no, no. 

On a fast tip from a friend, I drove some miles to find Earth shoes for a RIDICULOUSLY low price.  But don’t be jealous or anything.   

Ruffled Feathers

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I’m sure most of you know about the AMA resolution already.  Quick sum-up:  the medical trade organization has joined with ACOG to pursue legislation for “safe birth.”  Safe birth, of course, being birth supervised by a doctor.  The funny part is that the resolution targets Ricki Lake for daring to discuss her homebirth on the Today show.  So Ricki has responded and I wanted to link the article

I’m really sick of reading homebirth debates.  Same old anecdotes, statistics, ignorance being tossed about.  The discussion should be about choice.  And it isn’t like families are choosing homebirth in droves!  We’re talking about a small segment of the population.  Shouldn’t the AMA be worrying about cancer, insurance, MSRA, or some other big fish?  It is really amusing that the AMA/ACOG is so ruffled about midwives.      

ETA:  Today the AMA voted to remove references to Ricki Lake from their resolution.  I guess they didn’t think anyone was paying attention?       

water words

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Today I plunged into an cold river before my brain could catch up with my body and stop me.  A river so cold my body never got used to it.  I could only swim to keep from shivering.  There is nothing like the sensation of tingly, electric skin after a mountain water plunge. 

My dad taught me the art of river play; how to find air pockets beneath rapids, slide across rough mossy rocks, and navigate the slippery ones.  He forever urges me to jump in, swim harder, touch the bottom, slide down, make it across.  My husband, of course, takes river play to another level and sometimes I try to follow his games though usually I’m left swirling in a froth of white water. 

Celebrating with such amazing fathers; including my sister’s sweet husband (future father)–beautiful day. 

i keep hearing / tree talk / water words / and i keep knowing what they mean  –Lucille Clifton       

 

Again.

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This time in my state.

A nursing mom was told to go to the bathroom or cover up at Westgate Mall.  Read the story.  What the news didn’t mention was that the security guard called the police who actually made the grandmother go to the car to get the mom’s driver’s license so they could file a report!!  Did the police not even understand the law?  The mom was carrying the DHEC card explaining her legal right to nurse in public but the guard refused to look at it.  What an odd world in which we live–moms carrying cards identifying their right to feed their babies. 

I love how the newspaper article ends by saying the mall offers family rooms for nursing.  Who cares?  The mom can nurse wherever she pleases.  And, as usual, the newspaper is hosting a web poll asking if you are offended by a nursing mom.  Again, who cares?  It doesn’t matter who is offended.  She is protected by the law. 

ETA:  Please take a moment and email the manager of Westgate Mall.  The mom says that he told her she was “overreacting” and that the security guard was just trying to help.    Ron_Thomas@cblproperties.com  

Green our Vaccines

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You may have noticed I have never posted on vaccines.  I do have a vaccine page planned but it will not include advice or my two-cents.  The decision to vax, not-vax, selectively vax is a choice each parent must grapple with.  There is plenty of info out there but I won’t tell another parent what to do in the area of vaccines.     

Still, I wanted to share these pics from the recent “Green Our Vaccines” rally hosted by Jenny McCarthy and Jim Carrey.  Regardless of which study you read on risks, there is no one who will say vaccines are without risk.  These pics show some of that story.