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Ways I’m found

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Today, for instance, these were some of the searches that found my blog (typos included):

  • “whuppin when we get home”
  • ways to poo
  • must have s for baby registry
  • was jane nelson spanked in her life?
  • pickens flea market
  • dreams about tomatoes going bad
  • murderer hydromedusa
  • negative heel
  • how long was jesus breastfed
  • video of mom breastfeeding teen son 

That last one creeps me out. 

I love that wordpress shows me the search terms entered that pull up my blog.  I wish I could remember some of the funny searches I’ve seen.  Some have left me scratching my head as to how my blog came up as a search result. 

People must be very very bored to be searching for things like “ways to poo.” 

I suppose I must be very very bored to pay attention to how people find my blog…

 

 

 

Blessingways

bellyCarey and I are once again hosting monthly Blessingways for new and expectant families.  They are still the same time (2pm-4pm, 4th Saturday of the month) but at a new location.  We’re now meeting at the Acupuncture Center of Greenville

If you have never attended one of the Blessingways, let me ‘splain.  About a year ago, I wanted a way to find a way to ease some of the fear and negativity surrounding birth.  So I thought it would be nice to have a local mom share her positive birth story each month.  And then, while we had everyone gathered, maybe we’d invite someone to share some mindful pregnancy, parenting, or health information.  Finally, since it is a Blessingway, we would do something small each month to honor the expectant women who attend.  

Blessingways are for expectant and new parents–yes.  But they are also for experienced parents who can offer wisdom and hands to hold.  We typically have a mix of pregnant moms, expectant dads, nurslings, toddlers, and professionals. 

This Saturday, Elenia, a first time mom, will share her positive hospital birth story.  Makesha will offer some information on prenatal and mom/baby yoga. 

Come learn, share, enjoy. 

If you are interested in telling your positive hospital or out-of-hospital birth story or if you would like to share your wisdom as a special guest, please let me know.    Or, if you are a professional who would like to offer something to pamper/honor our expectant moms one month, let me know as well.

2nd Trimester

Food cravings:

Champagne (yes, seriously), grapes, strawberries, guacamole, oreos/milk, mexican food, dill gherkins, and lemons with sea salt

Herbs/supplements:

Rainbow Light Complete prenatals (giant horsepills), liquid chlorophyll, oatstraw/nettle tea daily, calcium/magnesium and chamomile tea before bed, red raspberry leaf tea a few times a week

Physical changes:

I have a little bump.  My nose is always stuffy–a pregnancy side-effect I remember well from Norah   

Hormonal Changes:

Ask my husband.  No, really I think I’ve kept it normal.  I do have a shorter fuse right now, though

Wardrobe Changes:

I bought some long flowy dresses.  They aren’t maternity but they are high-waisted.  I can’t wait for summer!  And I found some consignment nursing tanks and shirts.  Abby loaned me her bella band.  For the little one, Old Navy had a stellar sale on newborn clothes.  And I picked up some white onesies to tie-dye.  I also reclaimed my Baby Nest carrier (my newborn carrier of choice) from a former client

And speaking of cesareans

Time Magazine has released a timely article on VBACs.  A quote from the article:  “When the problems with multiple C-sections start to mount, we’re going to look back and say, ‘Oh, does anyone still know how to do VBAC?'”

Curious about which hospitals ban VBACs in your state?  Check out ICAN’s new database.  The closest hospital to my house makes the list.  Ahem, Palmetto Baptist Easley.  I was surprised to see AnMed on the list of “de facto” bans.  I know of at least one VBAC at AnMed in the past year.  I hope this listing is a mistake.

Cesarean Practices

I’m going to try to write this post without sounding like I’m on a rant.  Deep breath and…

I want to talk about the immediate postpartum of a cesarean birth.  First, let me mention, that I’ve only attended cesareans at Greenville Memorial.  My experience is limited and what I’ve heard of other local hospitals is just that–hearsay. 

What bothers me the most about preparing my clients for cesarean birth is the inconsistency of practices.  I honestly don’t know what to tell them to expect anymore.  Examples: 

1)  Sometimes I’m permitted in the operating room.  If the doctor says I can attend, then the anesthesiologist must ok it.  I receive that answer second-hand from a nurse.  Sometimes after I’m already dressed in scrubs, I’m told “the anesthesiologist said ‘no’.”

2)  In that case, I’m taken to the mom’s recovery room to await her arrival.  Since Greenville Memorial doesn’t permit recovery room “rooming-in,” I stay with mom while dad goes with baby.  Recently, however, I was not allowed in recovery at all.  Like the anesthesiologist decision, it was at the say-so of one person–the recovery room nurse.  In that situation, the mom was left alone in recovery while dad stayed with baby.  I learned that if I was her immediate family, the nurse would let me in.  I’ve never heard that one before.  I wonder if it is written down anywhere?  

3)  If baby is healthy, he is taken to the nursery where inane people smile at the babies lying alone in isolettes behind the glass.  I have so much trouble with this scene.  The babies are alone.  These newborns are not skin-to-skin with a parent, are lying on their back under bright lights, and are surrounded by unfamiliar open space and smells. Why are people smiling at this?  But I digress.  The inconsistency is how quickly and easily the dad is able to bust his newborn out of the nursery.  Sometimes, it is no big deal.  Dad walks over to the nursery door and requests his baby.  Sometimes, he is told that the baby must be observed for an hour.  Sometimes 2 hours.  Sometimes he is told the baby must have a bath first.  I’ve actually started suggesting my clients flirt or fib to get their baby.  I watched one dad do both!  Tip:  go to the Mom/Baby info desk, ask for the room number of your wife, then go tell the nursery that you have been assigned a room and need to take your baby to his room. 

What logic suggests it is best practice to keep baby alone in an isolette immediately after birth?  When every medical journal is promoting immediate skin-to-skin and early initiation of breastfeeding, why this practice?  Babies do best in arms.  Why do newborn nurseries still exist?  Now I’m sure Greenville Memorial has a logistical reason for this practice but I doubt it is based on logic.

What my issue boils down to is this:  how your baby is handled after a cesarean birth is often determined by one person’s whim or mood. 

Another example:  one of my clients wanted the baby to be placed skin-to-skin on her chest following her cesarean.  She and her doctor discussed how that would work.  Everyone agreed.  Doctor exited.  OR nurse entered.  She said “absolutely not.  the OR is too cold for skin-to-skin.”  And so ensued a tense discussion that ended with a sour OR nurse influencing much of what subsequently occurred in the OR and in recovery. 

In some hospitals (even St. Francis), families remain in recovery together.  In some hospitals, babies are routinely placed skin-to-skin on mom immediately and in a few hospitals, permitted to nurse in the operating room.  I’ve heard of one Australian doctor who encourages the mother to “birth” her own baby during cesareans.  He delivers the head and then guides the mom to pull the baby to her chest, cord still uncut.  I’m not sure how the whole sterile field issue is handled in that situation.  The point is that there are ways to make a cesarean birth feel more like, well, birth.

Step 4 of the Mother-Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative is to initiate breastfeeding within one hour of birth.  And while I’ve had one client who nursed her baby immediately after leaving the OR (before baby was removed to the nursery), this is not the norm.  On average, for the cesareans I’ve attended, the delay has been more like 2-4 hours.     

And in case you’re wondering why breastfeeding within the first hour of birth is so important, here are a few reasons:

1)  Mom’s body regulates the baby’s body temperature. 

2)  Baby is less stressed, calmer, and has steadier breathing and heart rates.

3)  Baby is exposed to bacteria from the mother which are mostly harmless, or against which the mother’s milk contains protective factors.  Mom’s bacteria colonizes the baby’s gut and skin.  These compete with more harmful bacteria from health providers and the environment, and so prevent them from causing infection.

4)  Baby receives colostrum which, among many other protective factors, stimulates the baby to have bowel movements so that meconium is cleared quick.  This helps get rid of the substances in the baby’s body that produce jaundice and may help reduce it.

5)  Touching, mouthing, and sucking at the breast stimulates oxytocin to release in the mom.  Oxytocin causes the uterus to contract which may reduce maternal bleeding.  It stimulates other hormones which cause a mom to feel calm, relaxed, and “in love” with her baby.  And finally, it stimulates the flow of milk from the breast.

6)  Mom experiences joy.  The process of bonding is strengthened.

If you had a cesarean birth or attend cesareans, what has been your experience?  What are the practices like at other hospitals? 

 

 

 

 

 

 

filtering the sea through my fingers

pic3Norah says I’m a seashell.  And in my belly she can hear the ocean. 

She’s describing the sound of the doptone searching out elusive heartbeats.

 

A nurse I’ve never met sent me three seashells.  I received them today.  One for each of my children–the born, the born too soon, and the soon to come.  A precious treasure. 

 

May I daily remember to dive.  

Pregnancy Superfoods

Ah, the pregnancy superfoods.  Some of the top foods are blueberries, dark chocolate, walnuts, flax, and salmon.  I’ve been trying to eat more of these lately.  So, I revived a recipe I shared almost a year ago.  I switched out the carob chips for dark chocolate and behold:  these easy cookies pack in three of my superfoods (walnuts, dark chocolate, and flax). 

I’ve also learned to cut the prep time by using bags of walnut chips instead of chopping my own nuts.  I just made these cookies and the prep time was six minutes. 

Here is the recipe again:

2 1/2 cups chopped walnuts

2/3 cup whole wheat flour

1 tsp unrefined sea salt

1/3 cup ground flax (I grind mine in a coffee grinder just before using.  You can buy it already ground as flaxseed meal)

1/3 cup carob chips (or chocolate)

1/2 cup maple syrup plus 2 tbsp

2 tsp vanilla

Add all the ingredients in the given order and mix well.  Spoon onto a greased cookie sheet.   Flatten each mound slightly with a fork.  Bake at 350 for 12-15 minutes.  Cool before eating.

Note:  these are not cake-like cookies.  They are more like nut-clusters.  I get about 2 dozen cookies from one batch.

Advanced Prehistoric Babywearing

I know, I know.  The title sounds oxymoronic. 

You might remember that my toddler loves for her dinosaurs to babywear.  See last year’s post

Today, we were startled to discover the baby torture device carrier she rigged for her long neck.  If you look closely, the mother dinosaur is wearing three babies using a headband, two ponytail holders, and a carabiner. 

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Quickening

100_2592For weeks now, you and I
have been eating tomatoes as if the harvest’s
bounty will never cease. My breasts, too,
are tomato-heavy, the bowl of my belly
dense with the curve that will only continue
to deepen in the months ahead. Lingering
in bed this morning, I lay my hands
along the rise, palms and fingertips
listening for our daughter. Quickening,
the doctor called it, the desire
for the coming child. Imagine:
next August, we will carry our daughter
into the garden. We will hold
the fruit to her face;
we will teach her tomatoes.

(from the poem “Quickening” by Jacqueline Kolosov)

Book Check

My The Thinking Woman’s Guide to a Better Birth book is MIA.  Did I let someone borrow it? 

I usually have an obsessive memory of the locations of loaned books.  Where, oh where are you?  If a dear reader has it, will you let me know?